Homebirth is not at the top of every pregnant woman’s birth plan. But I see it all the time. Mamas start my Thame hypnobirthing classes with firm ideas about where they want to give birth. But this is KG Hypnobirthing so they start to discover all their Birth Choices.
And of course choice means options. So when they know all the options, many mamas throw their first ideas straight out of the window! But Thame hypnobirthing mama Emma was a bit different.
Emma told me she was having her baby at the JR… and that she doesn’t like hospitals. But because Emma’s quiet demeanour gave nothing away – I never once suspected that she was quietly planning a homebirth!
A Positive Homebirth story in Thame
I just thought I would share my positive birth story and let you know that we had our baby, Charlie, in the water at home as planned 😊.
He will be 3 weeks old this Saturday and has been great – he took to breastfeeding really well and never lost any weight after birth! He sleeps as well as a newborn can and we often get 3 hour stretches.
We had an Amazing birth!
Which followed my birth plan completely (very lucky, I know)! I did have to fight for my homebirth as the silver star consultants would rather I was in the JR (Spires) due to being on Fragmin anticoagulant and the increased risk of post partum haemorrhage. However, so long as I hadn’t taken it within 12 hours of giving birth the risk was no higher than for anyone else so I didn’t really see this as a genuine problem.
I read so many papers to make sure I was making the right decision! After 2 visits to 2 consultants I finally managed to get them to write a plan for the home birth midwives to follow. The compromise was that I would have a managed third stage labour.
My waters broke at 3:30am on the 7th, my original due date (although it had been moved forward a week after the 12 week scan, which I always thought was too early as it would have meant I had ovulated on day 7). I went into early labour straight away but managed to get some sleep until morning.
Hypnobirthing in early labour
We then just took it easy all day whilst my contractions got gradually stronger. A community (home birth) midwife came out to check me in the early afternoon just because my waters had gone. She left again as I was still in early, not active labour. See Blog Do you want a really short labour? (or a long one?!)
We went for a gentle walk and I had a shower and a bath. I wandered around the house and used lots of different positions, remaining active throughout.
Call the Midwife?
Then things started to get more intense and we called the Thame midwife at about 9:30pm. I had a really lovely midwife who was very calm and experienced and left me to it, just listening from the other room to give us privacy. We had low lights, piano music and candles and it was such a lovely environment. Our big dog just slept in his bed in the corner of the room throughout the whole thing!
My husband was such a great support – I leant on him through most surges, particularly nearer the end! I started getting some urges to push around 11:30pm so we agreed to a vaginal exam to see where I was – 5cm.
Hypnobirthing in Water
I had to try not to push during each surge (very hard)! and I decided to get in the pool at that point because it was becoming more intense. The pool was lovely and I enjoyed being able to get into any position and be supported by the water. I did use some gas and air after a while in the pool and found this really helped, particularly with breathing. After about an hour my urges to push got so strong and he started to come.
Just two easy pushes!
This part was very quick – in just 2 easy pushes that I had no control over and definitely couldn’t stop my baby just popped out and I had no tears at all (which of course I was very happy about!!) I caught my baby myself and unwrapped the cord which was once around his neck. He was very calm and just did a little cry but was breathing immediately. And he was healthy and fed within the hour.
Because I had had such a straightforward and natural labour, my Midwife and I decided to try a physiological third stage and just use drugs if we had to – if I did have any excessive bleeding. The placenta came out easily after I stood up and did a small push – about 15 minutes after the birth and my bleeding was normal… good old natural oxytocin!
So pleased with my Midwife
She agreed we could just play it by ear rather than jumping in with drugs straight away, despite what the consultants had said. I was really pleased to be able to stay in the water cuddling my baby whilst we waited for the cord to stop pulsating (that is, waiting for white) and the placenta to birth naturally – I had been dreading having to jump out straight away and suddenly have lots of intervention.
Childbirth is COMPLETELY manageable
Labour was hard and intense but COMPLETELY manageable and I never once felt out of control or that I couldn’t do it. I just left my body to it and it worked! Hypnobirthing definitely helped give me that confidence and empowerment. I also would never have thought to have a homebirth without HYPNOBIRTHING and I’m sure that made SUCH a difference to my experience, particularly as I don’t really like hospitals.
E, G their baby C and their big Dog
Group Classes in Thame, Wheatley, Horspath & Witney
Useful Pregnancy & Birth Sites
Oxford Hypnobirthing – KG Hypnobirthing classes In Thame, Wheatley, Horspath & Witney
Which? Birth Choice – helping you decide where to give birth
AIMS – The Association for Improvement in Maternity services – better births for all
Pinter & Martin – Why It Matters – A series of books giving a full percspective on pregnancy, birth & more
Homebirth – Oxford FB Group – friendly meetings to talk about home birth
Positive Birth Movement – free to attend positive birth meets